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Originally posted by Funbrunette
If it was the person's wish I would do it....I always tell Chris (God forbid) if I get into a bad accident and become a "vegetable" to make sure I OD on morphine or something, I would hate to be a burden on my family and friends, but if it was my son NO WAY! If this makes sense...
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It makes perfect sense to me, FB. Legacy's point was well-taken regarding the selfishness of keeping someone alive in that state, and I'm grateful that I 'fessed up to that aspect of my personality early in this thread. I wouldn't let my children go easily. I'd hang on and believe nearly any damned fool thing just to keep them. Same with my husband. Visiting someone in a coma might not be particularly pleasant, but it has it all over visiting a grave.
When I was in my late twenties (I got married at 25) my husband gave me a great gift. He said "promise me you'll comparison shop for my funeral." Now, that promise does two things. Keeping it will prevent me from getting ripped off. Keeping it will prevent me from swallowing a bottle of pills and following him, because I'll have something to do. My husband is a wise man indeed. I'd like to be able to return the favor by giving him one of those documents that tells him exactly what I want done and when if I end up in a coma like that. I will someday...hopefully *before* I end up a vegetable, too. He'd never make the "pull the plug" decision on his own.
I'm also going to sit down with him and do a will. I've seen two many families fight over what was left behind because the deceased didn't think they had anything worth a fuss.
I have a framed print of Van Gogh's "Sunflowers" in my kitchen. It's one of my oldest posessions. It isn't worth anything, it's just a print in a wooden WalMart type frame. But recently one of my daughters was here, smiled at it and said "if you ever don't want that anymore, may I have it? It's been around my whole life and I love it." I hadn't known that. I like knowing that. I offered it to her right then, but she said no. "Someday, though." So, that financially worthless piece of art is emotionally priceless to her. Into the will it will go, so that she will always know her feelings meant a lot to me. Not a bad bequest to leave a child.