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Originally posted by MorganGrayson
OK...now I'm getting scared. It was the "soft voice" thing.
Once when my children had kids over, I bellowed (I bellow well, I have a certificate, in fact) "If you don't clean that room you're going to get a beating!" One of the friends obviously expressed concern, and I clearly heard my youngest daughter say "oh, don't worry, she says that all the time but she never really does it."
Oops. Busted.
However, if Mommy spoke softly...it was an indication that Hell Had Come To Breakfast. On another day, I walked into a living room full of children, a couple of them my own, and said very softly "get in there and clean that room right now." Ever see kids fly? *All* of them ran to the bedroom and I swear not one foot touched the ground.
Speaking softly is an excellent technique for dealing with screaming people. They have to calm down to hear what you just said, then seem to mimic your delivery.
When I first began posting on YNOT, back in '97, I never got a reply to my posts. I had wanted to appear intelligent, competent, thoughtful...all the things one would want one's business associates to use as an evaluation. Someone at a convention once said "no one answered because no one understood a word you said."
Oh.
Overshot the mark a bit, did I?
Then, of course, the accusation "I don't like you because you talk down to people." I explained rather at length that wasn't what "talking down" meant. If I'd wanted to "talk down" to a person, I'd assume the person was stupid and use very...small...words. I do believe the individual's dislike deepened to hatred at that point.
One can't win them all.
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true, you can't win them all as is my latest situation. But I view it as it's not how many friends you claim to have but the quality of those who claim to be yours. As I said in my recent interview, that it's not that I know everything about this industry, but I sure as hell know those who do - therefore my value to my employer, webmasters and my clients goes up when I can assist them by drawing upon those within the industry who know what they are doing and offer advice to them thru me. I am a strong believer in Karma (which ran over my dogma many years back)
When someone in this industry looses their job - I usually get contacted and ask around and within a few short days find them employment. I don't ask for any money only that we have to stick together to survive and grow. Anyone who chooses to be my enemy is welcome to it - but it is their choice not mine. Should they wish to grow with me then I will gladly join with them. My life is too short to worry about negativity and indifference.