[Mister X]

Well you've got a couple of problems as far as I can tell. What you have when you open your site is basically a lot of bad stuff if you want to trade traffic with most clean sites. You have both flash and java which is probably very hard on someone with an older computer. You have dialer executables which most sites that have north american traffic will not allow. You have a banner exchange on the bottom which uses sneaky blind linked banners which is also bad if you want to get trades. As a good thing you have some pretty good pictures of some nice looking babes. As a bad thing it's very hard to find at first. The drop down list in the top right corner has a lot of content but it's not immediately obvious that there is anything there. The biggest mistake I can see is having your site open in a particular window size after being redirected from the index page. Anyone that goes there is going to think it's a popup window and they will probably close it before they get a chance to see that it is actually your site. And that will probably also get you blacklisted from most trades before you even start them because of the redirect. Redirects are a MAJOR bad thing when they are abused and most webmasters hate them worse than popups when they are looking for trades.
If you lose the java snow and the redirect and redesign your page to make it more obvious that you actually have content on your site you will see an increase for sure. If you lose the dialer exe and the blind links you can get even more. I know dialers are pretty common in Europe but in North America blind linked dialers will keep you out of the majority of trades. And the ones who will let you in will be assholes and crooks that you don't need.
Good luck.