i hate flying. i've had anxiety attacks before on planes... not pretty. i'm a lot like you, control freakl. i hate that i have no control over what's going on. i've found some drugs that seem to help. one is called meclezine (sp?). you can get prescription strength or over the counter. dramine has come out w/ dramine2. most of the time it's behind the counter at the pharmacy, so go ask. i usually pop one of these when i get to the airport. another cure i've found is that i'm ok while i'm busy. i got some poor lady to talk to me the whole way back from vegas last year, i felt bad for her, but i think it would have been worse if she ws quiet. gameboy is a good distraction. i bought one last year before a long flight and it worked.
good luck
