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Originally posted by -Red-
Defiant and I met online. We chatted for almost 3 years before we finally met. (and what a hot story that was.  )
We've been together since 1999. So far, so good. 
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I thought of you guys when I read that, but figured I'd let you tell about it.
Sometimes it does indeed work. As Legacy said, it's based on "personality love," which is what truly matters - as anyone who's ever made the mistake of getting involved with someone because they will attractive will attest.
While cleaning out and packing to move I found an ID card with a photo taken when I was 21. I showed it to my husband, with sort of a depressed, self-pitying "this is what I looked like at 21." He looked at it, shrugged and said "you just look like a younger you. You haven't changed all that much." Now, that's the kind of stuff you get when you marry for personalities. "I haven't changed"? Please, dear, let's be real here. Of course, when I stare intently at him, I can't see where he's changed all that much, either. Intellectually, I realize his old clothes don't fit, so I know he's put on weight. His bald spot on the top of his head is bigger...but I've called that my "kissy spot" since I met him, so who cares. (I think bald men are sexy anyway. Always have. Good thing, he began to go bald in his early twenties.) He's got that terribly distinguished silvering at the temples that men get. So, it all depends on the eyes that are doing the looking. Maybe in his eyes I haven't changed all that much.