Guys, what would you do if...

Ronaldo · 09-08-2003, 05:46 PM

Your wife brought home another girl to "share" in your intimacy? Would you let her have fun? Would you have to be involved? Or, is there just no fucking way?
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Now, what would you do if your wife brought home a GUY to "share" in your intimacy? Would you let her have fun? Would you have to be involved? Or, is there just no fucking way?

asuna · 09-08-2003, 06:07 PM

What's a wife?

Ronaldo · 09-08-2003, 06:22 PM

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Originally posted by asuna
What's a wife?

I did mean to add your wife OR your girlfriend.

Funbrunette · 09-08-2003, 06:32 PM

Let's hear it boys....What would you do???

A.A. · 09-08-2003, 09:43 PM

Alot goes into bringing another partner around to indulge in whether a guy or a girl. Soooo much can go wrong it's amazing. Your wife might actually start believing you prefer the other girl being around as opposed to her. You might actually get jealous as well because it is your wife and the other girl is like a plaything kinda but the girl considers your wife HER plaything! Too much can develop out of that kinda thing.

If you and your wife love each other don't do it unless you talk about it first.

pornJester · 09-09-2003, 03:12 AM

In the first situation you might as well take it, you don't want her doing it behind your back (and most likely she won't leave you for a chick).

In the second sitution I would flip the fuck out.

My wife (when I'm married) isn't going to be tagged by other dudes if i can help it.

Ronaldo · 09-09-2003, 03:45 AM

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Originally posted by A.A.
Alot goes into bringing another partner around to indulge in whether a guy or a girl. Soooo much can go wrong it's amazing. Your wife might actually start believing you prefer the other girl being around as opposed to her. You might actually get jealous as well because it is your wife and the other girl is like a plaything kinda but the girl considers your wife HER plaything! Too much can develop out of that kinda thing.

If you and your wife love each other don't do it unless you talk about it first.

A well thought out, and quite honest response.

Ronaldo · 09-09-2003, 03:59 AM

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Originally posted by pornJester
In the first situation you might as well take it, you don't want her doing it behind your back (and most likely she won't leave you for a chick).

Typical response. You get enjoyment either way. You join in or you watch. That's tough.

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Originally posted by pornJester

In the second sitution I would flip the fuck out. My wife (when I'm married) isn't going to be tagged by other dudes if i can help it.

Again, a typical response from a guy. Penis envy?

You married her. She's coming home to you. You're gonna spend the rest of your life with her. 20 minutes with another guy making HER happy AND satisfied is gonna make her question her devotion to you?

Firehorse where are you?? Oh wait, Boardtracker will send him over shortly

pornodoggy · 09-09-2003, 04:18 AM

I brought my girlfriend home to my wife to share in our intimacies ... it was pretty awesome for about two years, and then I learned the real meaning of odd man out.

The bitc... the lovely ladies are still very happy together 21 years later.

No thanks ... I'll pass.

adamneve · 09-09-2003, 04:57 AM

answer for first question:

would join!

answer for second question:

would live the wife and not come back.....

ehoneys · 09-09-2003, 10:10 AM

there is just no way ..i must be involved...good thing i dont have a wife..

Funbrunette · 09-09-2003, 09:23 PM

I was hoping to see what Evil Chris would answer...lol

Kenny B · 09-09-2003, 09:38 PM

Hey if she’s bringing a guy into our intimacies I have no problem sharing! But we’ll share everything, he can pay half her bills now, deal with half her shit, screw sharing let him just take her!

Bigsampy · 09-09-2003, 10:48 PM

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Your wife brought home another girl to "share" in your intimacy? Would you let her have fun? Would you have to be involved? Or, is there just no fucking way?
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Now, what would you do if your wife brought home a GUY to "share" in your intimacy? Would you let her have fun? Would you have to be involved? Or, is there just no fucking way?

Bigsampy · 09-09-2003, 10:48 PM

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Originally posted by Kenny B
Hey if she’s bringing a guy into our intimacies I have no problem sharing! But we’ll share everything, he can pay half her bills now, deal with half her shit, screw sharing let him just take her!

Hear here!

Shann · 09-09-2003, 11:17 PM

Hmm this kind of thing makes me wonder, why is one ok and one not? The answer should be the same for both shouldnt' it?

Things that make you go hmmmmmmm

Ronaldo · 09-10-2003, 12:35 AM

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Originally posted by Shann
Hmm this kind of thing makes me wonder, why is one ok and one not? The answer should be the same for both shouldnt' it?

Things that make you go hmmmmmmm

That's why I asked.

To see if the double standard I THOUGHT existed, truly did.

To be fair though, if you ladies could offer up your opinion on the REVERSE scenario (If your husband brought home a female one day and a male the next), I wouldn't be surprised if MOST ladies said yes to the girl and no to the man.

Of course their answer may very well be swayed considerably on their own man's insecurities.

I'm sure alot of women would flat out turn the man down with genuinely no interest. While others might be excited at the prospect, their initial responses would probably be based upon what they THINK their man would WANT to hear. I think very few married ladies would say IN FRONT OF THEIR HUSBAND, "Yeah, bring him on."

So maybe the answers truly aren't all that different.

Ronaldo · 09-10-2003, 12:36 AM

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Originally posted by Funbrunette
I was hoping to see what Evil Chris would answer...lol

So was I actually

Shann · 09-10-2003, 03:17 AM

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Originally posted by Ronaldo
That's why I asked.

To see if the double standard I THOUGHT existed, truly did.

To be fair though, if you ladies could offer up your opinion on the REVERSE scenario (If your husband brought home a female one day and a male the next), I wouldn't be surprised if MOST ladies said yes to the girl and no to the man.

Of course their answer may very well be swayed considerably on their own man's insecurities.

I'm sure alot of women would flat out turn the man down with genuinely no interest. While others might be excited at the prospect, their initial responses would probably be based upon what they THINK their man would WANT to hear. I think very few married ladies would say IN FRONT OF THEIR HUSBAND, "Yeah, bring him on."

So maybe the answers truly aren't all that different.

Been there done that, no is my final answer and i don't need a lifeline to ask the audience or call a friend!
ROFL

StuartD · 09-10-2003, 03:27 AM

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Originally posted by pornJester
In the first situation you might as well take it, you don't want her doing it behind your back (and most likely she won't leave you for a chick).

In the second sitution I would flip the fuck out. My wife (when I'm married) isn't going to be tagged by other dudes if i can help it.

ditto

BillyHoe · 09-10-2003, 12:08 PM

It's only sex. If a marriage is based just on sex isn't that a problem in itself?
I'd let my wife decide if she wants me involved. If she didn't want me involved I'd probably not want to watch.

But I'd sure as hell try to film it.

dyonisus · 09-10-2003, 12:30 PM

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Originally posted by pornJester
In the first situation you might as well take it, you don't want her doing it behind your back (and most likely she won't leave you for a chick).

In the second sitution I would flip the fuck out. My wife (when I'm married) isn't going to be tagged by other dudes if i can help it.

Nice double standard -- But how do you know she wont leave you for another chick??

dyonisus · 09-10-2003, 12:33 PM

I also agree that by adding outside partners to the mix you are opening things up for alot of risks, jealousy, would not want to go that road at all either way!

Ronaldo · 09-10-2003, 01:09 PM

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Originally posted by BillyHoe
It's only sex. If a marriage is based just on sex isn't that a problem in itself?
I'd let my wife decide if she wants me involved. If she didn't want me involved I'd probably not want to watch.

But I'd sure as hell try to film it.

Best answer I've seen so far!

sherie · 09-10-2003, 02:51 PM

I am not a fan of sharing my man/woman with others.

Dwreck · 09-10-2003, 04:12 PM

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Originally posted by Shann
Been there done that, no is my final answer and i don't need a lifeline to ask the audience or call a friend!
ROFL

You crack me up!!

Dwreck · 09-10-2003, 04:13 PM

Nice thread a good read Ron.

Im single and dotn get laid nearly enough to make a call.

StuartD · 09-10-2003, 04:39 PM

Well, here's the thing.... a lot of people, in their mind of minds... way back there, don't even consider what lesbians do as sex.

If you go to a paychiatrist and do the word association thing, and they say sex.... the very first image in your mind is a dick in the pussy. Penetration... a dick being put into something of someone else.

Granted, we know sex is more than that... exchange of fluids in a sexual manor is sex all on it's own... but.. it's a mentality. It's a common way of thinking that's been drilled into our heads based on thousands of years of evolution and mental inheretance.

That being said... another guy sticking his dick in your woman is a huge violation based on those thousands of years of instinct. There's just something in you that just triggers and explodes... I know, that's not how it is for everyone, I'm just speaking "generally."

But anyway, when you see two women making out... it just seems like it's something that can't possibly be serious... it's something that people haven't really had on their minds and wasn't really thought about much before the recent 100 years or so. So it's not as much a part of our inner psyche... not implanted into our basic instincts yet.

As much as we like to think we're way on top of the food chain and better than animals and stuff... there's just some primal instincts that are too hard to shake.

BillyHoe · 09-11-2003, 03:06 AM

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Originally posted by Ronaldo
Best answer I've seen so far!

Thanks

SexyScribe · 09-12-2003, 12:22 AM

I'm a big fan of sharing, but in my little world, nobody brings anybody home without us having talked about it first, regardless of whether it's another man or a woman. As AA pointed out, the potential for disaster is huge, not to mention hurt feelings, jealousy, insecurity..

I wasn't surprised by the majority of responses to this question.. I've noticed most guys have no problem thinking of, or actually indulging in, sharing their wife/gf with another woman whereas the thought of sharing the same wife/gf with another guy is generally upsetting. Whether it's as StuartD suggests, and men don't really consider lesbian sex to be 'real sex', I'm not sure, but as pornodoggy discovered, most *women* consider lesbian sex to be 'real sex'. LOL

So, in my eyes, whether I'm with another man OR woman, I'm sharing myself sexually with someone other than my partner. And the same reasoning applies to my partner. Whoever it is, we're bringing him/her home together.

Great question, Ronaldo!