Hey there,
I'm the Affiliate Manager for Xtremepay.com and even though it's not technically an 'adult' program, we sell penis enlargement (
www.americas-drugstore.com), breast enlargement etc and have many connections within the Industry.
Our premise is to accept anyone who wishes to promote our products. If after sign-up we see poor clicks or conversions then we work with the individual affiliate/company to try to determine what the problem could be, and then obviously fix it.
We have some affiliates who are sitting idle, and we check up on them regularly to see if there is anything we can do to help them get started. The sooner the affiliate starts working, the sooner they can get paid (and we pay every 2 weeks, so affiliates are pretty content with that schedule).
We are very flexible with our affiliates, so if you're interested in a program that offers 40% commissions and a 5% commission webmaster referral then Xtremepay.com would be the way to go. The products mesh well within the industry and are not in direct competition with your own services, which is why we encourage adult webmasters to sign up with us.
We were recently at the Internext-Expo in Florida and had a couple of booths, you may have seen our guys wandering the aisles with their 6 foot long blow-up penises, it was a sight to behold!
To be kicked off our affiliate program you have to do something very serious. Most affiliate sites will have a terms and conditions section to review. This will show you what rules you must abide by. Sometimes though there can be flexibility (as I mentioned) on some terms, and with our company we suggest you just give our Affiliate Support team a call.
But anyways, I feel like I've spent too much time selling and not enough time replying, so I'm sorry if I bombarded you, I'm so used to writing sales copy and advertising campaigns at work that it's hard to stop when you're on your own time!!
Good luck in your research, I hope you find some good programs to promote through your site.
~Mayhem
www.MistressOfMayhem.com