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mahi123 · 04-27-2009, 08:28 PM

Just a few questions, things that are newer to me that I have never experienced before so I wanted to get some other mature womens input.

1) My girlfriend will not kiss me after I perform oral on her? I am willing to kiss her after she does it to me. How do all of you feel about this?

2) She also will not going down on me after we make love, unless I wash it off before hand.

3) Lastly, it isn't directly sex related but it bothers me. If any nudity is on the TV she looks away (guy or girl), she also looks away if women are dressed skimpy (ex: 2 piece bathing suits). It almost seems to me like she is a homophobe, maybe afraid if she saw this stuff she may like it? What do you guys think? Also, another pointer, to maybe help you understand her, she wears shorts and a tank top over her bathing suit cause she said she doesn't like to show skin.

thanks in advance to all of the mature replies. your help is appreciated.

Rochard · 04-28-2009, 12:56 AM

Your girlfriend is a fucking prude. Drop kick her to the curb and find a replacement. Quickly.

Cyndalie · 04-28-2009, 09:50 AM

She's modest so what. How old is she? Does she come from a religious home or upbringing?

LizAEBN · 04-28-2009, 10:16 AM

Some girls just don't like the taste of themselves, or are embarrassed/ ashamed.

It's not that big a deal, really.

Also, unless she's snowballing you, there's a pretty marked difference between her blowing you and kissing you afterwards and a post-dive kiss/ blow job. A blow job doesn't usually leave as much residual aftermath, if you take my meaning. I know lots of very open, sexually-comfortable women who don't dig on the taste of woman in that scenario.

carol.prime · 04-28-2009, 11:07 AM

I'm with Liza, as long as you make her cum.
That won't be a big deal.

Vid Vicious · 04-28-2009, 02:13 PM

damn dude .. your stuck with a very prudish girl .. how is she handling you looking at porn all day long?

you need to train her to enjoy and appreciate sex!

Vid Vicious · 04-28-2009, 02:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LizAEBN

Some girls just don't like the taste of themselves, or are embarrassed/ ashamed.

It's not that big a deal, really.

Also, unless she's snowballing you, there's a pretty marked difference between her blowing you and kissing you afterwards and a post-dive kiss/ blow job. A blow job doesn't usually leave as much residual aftermath, if you take my meaning. I know lots of very open, sexually-comfortable women who don't dig on the taste of woman in that scenario.

I disagree (ever hear of cock breath)... for men it's just as hard to kiss after her mouth was on your member. I couldn't kiss afterwards till somewhere in my early 20's. It just seemed gross to me. It was just a question of getting comfortable with sex and the acts of sex ..by my mid 30's i was licking ass .. mind you being a Content producer and being involved in organising Gangbangs, cum baths and group grops, being thrown into the swinging lifestyle really helped educate me ... Now in my early 40's I m getting involved in fetishism .. something else I couldn't grasp earlier in life ...

..time is on my side, yes it is.

lulu · 04-28-2009, 02:35 PM

everyone is different. i'm with cyndalie on the questions and i'm with liz on her comments.

fantastvik · 04-28-2009, 03:26 PM

good luck with your GF!

Elli · 04-30-2009, 06:12 PM

Lots of people are "icked" out by tasting themselves. I've had boyfriends who wouldn't let me kiss them after a quick blowjob, no matter how clean I was. As for the looking away part, that's just odd.

DrChango · 05-01-2009, 12:57 PM

It's one thing to kiss a girl after she's gone down on you for a bit, but would you kiss her if she had your boy goo in her mouth and all over her lips?

If she doesn't like kissing you after you go south, wipe your face and have a glass of water standing ready to rinse your mouth out. By the sounds of it you're lucky to be getting anything other than missionary with the lights off so count your blessings.

As far as looking away from movies with nude people...wtf? Where did you find this chick?

Wolf · 05-03-2009, 07:45 PM

Run like hell.

Been there, done that. You'll be miserable.

NicAngel · 05-05-2009, 01:20 AM

she sounds very young, inexperienced and uncomfortable with sexuality. it may take years before she embraces all that sex has to offer. if you love her then just be patient and be creative to ease her into what you like. and if she loves you then she'll make an effort to please you too even if its out of her comfort zone. you're in a relationship for crying out loud. you're not asking her to jump off a bridge.

maybe start having more sex in the shower with her and see if it helps get her mouth in more places ;-) hope that helps.